Monday, 19 March 2012

Adoption placement plan review meeting

Our last child free day, and it felt a bit odd. All we had to do was attend an Adoption Placement Plan Review Meeting, basically a meeting of the placement manager, our SW, the boys SW and the foster carers SW plus us and the foster carers, to review how the introductions had gone and to agree if it was still appropriate to move the boys tomorrow.

We spent a couple of hours chatting but largely that was reflecting on just how well introductions had gone, which seemed to be universally felt. The foster carer had told Joe a couple of weeks back just before he met us when he was feel very concerned that he would just be taken away from his foster carers, that he would only be moved if he was entirely happy. So this morning she explained to them both what the meeting was that she was going to, and asked what they wanted. Joe replied that he wanted to live with Daddy and Papa for ever and ever and ever. Charlie replied that he wanted a cheese burger.....

Apparently Joe cried when J put him to bed last night and when asked why, he said that he was missing Daddy and Papa and was sad that he wouldn't see us tomorrow.

At the end of the meeting, we signed the paperwork which authorised the transfer of their care to us. We're still only acting with delegated parental responsibility until the point that we go to court to apply for an adoption order, which will probably be in about six months time, depending on how the next few weeks go.

After the meeting, we headed off to buy some clothes. We had lunch in the M&S cafe, making the most of our adult time. I said to G when we were sat enjoying our unhealthy cake, that I will really miss this quiet, calm time together on our own, but right at that moment, I was really missing the boys and would have loved to have them there.

We did a bit of shopping, came back, cleaned the house, unpacked their last few belongings and then went out for a meal and a bottle of champagne - our last meal out without children for quite some time. And of course, all we talked about was the children!

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